Your niece hurt my feelings.
15 days ago • 1 min readSeptember 2026 She didn't have to do me like that Listen, A lesser woman would have let it ruin her whole day. My daughter is the 8 year old in question and she hit me with a rejection on her birthday. I had to do some mental gymnastics to get myself back on target, and I got some valuable insight in the process. Go read all about it: I Got My Feelings Hurt By An Eight-Year-Old This one...whew! Y'all, pray for me cause I have to go strategize a plan to move us safely into her teen years! I...
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24 days ago • 1 min readSeptember 2026 Temperature check My friends, Do me a favor and hover your hand over your coffee cup. Any warmth? Any steam? Or has it gone completely cold? Again. I came across something called the "cold coffee theory" and it stopped me in my tracks because I couldn't believe that it was happening often enough to other people to need a whole theory. I put my reflections in a letter hot off the presses: Well, Hell, My Coffee's Cold Again. This week, I also created a really fun little quiz...
READ POSTRegistration closes at midnight.
about 1 month ago • 1 min readChanda Branch J9 Collective OK Girl, You've waited long enough. A quick note before I settle in for the evening and finish preparing our space. Registration for The Collective: Leading with Wellness closes tonight at midnight. If you have been circling this experience, wondering whether you need to be there, I’ll leave you with this: You do not have to arrive with the answer. You do not need a perfectly articulated problem. And you certainly don't need to have everything together. That's part...
READ POSTI've been building this room carefully.
about 1 month ago • 1 min readChanda Branch J9 Collective Hey friend, I’ve been shaping The Collective: Leading with Wellness with one question in mind: What would make this worth a Black woman giving me a few precious hours of her life? Not just enjoyable. Not simply inspirational. Useful. Honest. Spacious enough for reflection and structured enough that you leave knowing what to do next. So, I have been building around three practices: Shared Resource Prosperity, Creative Excellence and Strategic Intent. We are going to...
READ POSTBefore you lock in, know what you are locking out.
about 1 month ago • 1 min readSeptember 2026 Naw, I'm good. Hey sis! You know how sometimes you come across something that, in the words of my cousin, "you can't want"? That's where I am am with this particular trend sweeping the internet right now: The Great Lock In or The Winter Arc. If you haven't seen it yet, it's a trend that calls for intense discipline, bordering on deprivation from September through December in order to achieve a set of goals that were set at the beginning of the year. Here's the thing: I don't...
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about 1 month ago • 1 min readChanda Branch J9 Collective Listen Sis, Sometimes the healthiest thing you can do is stop trying to make an unhealthy system work. Whew. Sit with that one, because one thing I know about Black women, is that we are stellar at making things work. Give us too few people, not enough money, a questionable timeline and somebody who “forgot” to communicate something important, and somehow… it gets done. That resourcefulness has served us, but it cannot become the requirement for our existence....
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